No relationship is perfect, but for the most parts a good
relationship makes you feel secure, happy while toxic relationships make you
feel drained and depleted. Instead of
feeling happy, you’re always mentally, emotional and even physically drained.
Toxic relationships are characterised by behaviours on the
part of toxic partner that are not frequently, physically damaging to their
partner.
Technically, toxic relationship behaviours are the result of
lack of empathy. Toxic behaviour represents an inability of refusing to feel
genuine understanding, compassion and love for the other person. It’s like
demanding your partner to live up to your expectations, or refusing to see
things from their perspective.
How do you notice that someone is toxic?
-You’re emotionally
affected by their drama
-You fear being
around them with the sense that they boss you around or make you feel inferior which lowers your self esteem.
-You always try to
care for them or fix their messed up life
-You tend to blame
yourself every time there is a problem between you.
Toxic relationships can be saved, only if both people are
committed to working on it. The toxic one will always be manipulative just to
keep the other one around for their own benefits. It takes a lot of energy to
move on from a toxic relationship but once you are out, you get to have your
peace of mind. The best advice to give to someone in a toxic relationship is to
tell them to quit. As much as you try you will always feel like you are never
enough. Sometimes we need to be selfish and consider ourselves first before
anyone else. You don’t have to force anything for it to work. My county people
say ‘SI MUST’ which makes a lot of sense if you’ve been through a toxic
relationship.
