TOXIC RELATIONSHIPS

No relationship is perfect, but for the most parts a good relationship makes you feel secure, happy while toxic relationships make you feel drained and depleted.  Instead of feeling happy, you’re always mentally,  emotional and even physically drained.

Toxic relationships are characterised by behaviours on the part of toxic partner that are not frequently, physically damaging to their partner.

Technically, toxic relationship behaviours are the result of lack of empathy. Toxic behaviour represents an inability of refusing to feel genuine understanding, compassion and love for the other person. It’s like demanding your partner to live up to your expectations, or refusing to see things from their perspective.

How do you notice that someone is toxic?

  -You’re emotionally affected by their drama

  -You fear being around them with the sense that they boss you around or make you feel inferior which lowers your self esteem.

 -You always try to care for them or fix their messed up life

 -You tend to blame yourself every time there is a problem between you.

Toxic relationships can be saved, only if both people are committed to working on it. The toxic one will always be manipulative just to keep the other one around for their own benefits. It takes a lot of energy to move on from a toxic relationship but once you are out, you get to have your peace of mind. The best advice to give to someone in a toxic relationship is to tell them to quit. As much as you try you will always feel like you are never enough. Sometimes we need to be selfish and consider ourselves first before anyone else. You don’t have to force anything for it to work. My county people say ‘SI MUST’ which makes a lot of sense if you’ve been through a toxic relationship.