Borderline Personality Disorder

The first day i met Mercy, i knew she was a blessing in my life. Cheerful, loving, fun with a star like smile and beautiful ocean eyes. She was calm and everything i said made her happy. Though things changed abruptly when she got into an argument with her sister. I was shocked at how she couldn't handle her emotions. She cried endlessly and was shaking all through. After talking to her, everything changed and she was back to being the noisy girl i had met first. That is when i knew Mercy had a problem.

        

Borderline Personality Disorder is a mental health that impacts the way you think and feel about yourself and others, causing problems functioning in everyday life. Includes self-image issues, difficulty managing emotions and behavior, and a pattern of unstable relationships.

Having a relationship with someone who has feelings that don't have a basis in your own reality can be very difficult. You may feel as if you are speaking past your loved one. Mercy would tend to be quiet when she talks to someone with great importance in her life because she fears that her words would go beyond.

An essential part of loving someone with borderline personality disorder is realizing that you cannot fix them. You can have a close, loving, meaningful relationship and provide invaluable support but you cannot heal their illness. Watching Mercy struggle with deep inner turmoil, and experiencing such profound rawness of emotion breaks my heart. As much as i would really like to help Mercy, all i could do is show her love and be by her side everytime she breaks down.

At times Mercy would go deep in her feelings mostly when she is alone. With BPD, you have an intense fear of abandonment or instability, and you may have difficulty tolerating being alone. Yet inappropriate anger, impulsiveness and frequent mood swings may push others away, even though you want to have a long and lasting friendship and relationship.

Most common triggers are relationship triggers and interpersonal distress. Many people with BPD experience intense fear and anger, impulsive behavior, self-harm, and even suicidality in the wake of relationship events that make them feel either rejected, criticised or abandoned. When i found out that Mercy would hurt herself sometimes i did not judge her or lecture her on what is right or wrong. People tend to use different ways to deal with stress or depression and worst thing you can do is judging their own. Don't try convincing them that they are wrong, in fact, doing so will likely make feel attacked and they will likely respond by pushing you away.

         

There are many people in the world who have Mercy's condition and all of them need help. Medication is provided but mostly show them they are loved because they will know they are worth of living. Praying everyday that Mercy overcomes everything and comes out as the strong girl i know she is.