FACING REALITY

'I still can't believe you're single,'jokes Patrick. Is it that you're not interested in anyone or you haven't found someone? He goes on. ' I haven't found myself yet,' i replied slowly.

Let's talk about moving on.

Some may find it easy but it's not and there's no shortcut to make the pain go away soon. However, it won't last forever. Soon you will move on and there's no looking back. You'll end up a better person when you handle this situation properly.

A failed relationship can cause self- doubt, feeling of worthlessness and fear of loving again. We tend to drown in episodes that will make us push everyone away because of trust issues or even insecurities.

Some will tell you it's time you got over your relationship because it's been long enough and that you need to find someone new. Moving on doesn't necessarily mean finding someone else. Did anyone say being single is illegal? You can move on and still be single, as long as you have erased everything from the past. Hurtful experiences, ones that emotionally reset our lives, leave us with two choices: open up more or close down. It's so unfortunate that i chose to close down completely, though, the braver choice and the one that will allow new things to enter your life is to open up. Give yourself a new and different opportunity to leave it behind.

Moving on doesn't take a day. It takes alot of little steps to be able to break free off your broken self. Breakups can be hard and painful but it is a normal part of life. Don't let it destroy you. Don't let  your emotions dictate how you should live your life, because you could expect your decisions to be irrational. It must be mind over matter.

Loving someone doesn't mean you should be with them. It also doesn't mean that they're good for you. Face this reality squarely. You can have a happy life, even with great sorrow in your heart, even while carrying loss. Physically, your body is probably going fine and it's only your mind that has the problem. Facing the truth is difficult and life may feel more painful, yet perhaps also more peaceful, because conflict with it is reduced.

Iam not a motivational speaker but i hope this sinks in. Taylor Swift once said; when someone hurts you, it's okay to cry a river, but don't forget to build a bridge over it.